A Consent-Forward, Embodied Pathway Into Desire, Conscious Kink, and Intimacy

Working with me is not about fixing yourself, learning scripts, or becoming someone you’re not.

It’s about remembering how to listen to your body, trust your desire, and move through intimacy with clarity, confidence, and self-attunement.

Whether you are new to kink, curious about power dynamics, or longing for deeper intimacy in your relationships, this work meets you where you are and supports you in expanding from there.

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Uncover Your Kink Challenge
$50.00

A 12-Day Exploration Into Desire, Self-Discovery, and the Parts of You Waiting to Be Known

There are moments when desire speaks before we have the language to understand it.

A fantasy that keeps returning.

A curiosity you hesitate to admit.

A feeling you cannot quite explain.

A pull toward something that makes you wonder...

"Where did this come from?"

"Why does this excite me?"

"What does this say about who I am?"

For many of us, these questions do not come with curiosity.

They come with fear.

Because we live in a world that has taught us to divide ourselves into acceptable and unacceptable parts.

The parts we can share.

And the parts we hide.

The desires we can easily explain.

And the ones we keep tucked away in the quiet corners of our imagination.

Many people spend years disconnected from their erotic selves, not because they lack desire, but because they were never given the tools to understand it.

They were never taught that desire carries information.

That fantasy is often symbolic.

That our erotic selves speak in emotions, sensations, and experiences.

They were never taught that curiosity can be an act of self-compassion.

And that shame is not the only way to relate to the parts of ourselves we don't yet understand.

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THE EDGE JOURNEY

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At the heart of my 1:1 work is Edge: a six-month, intimate coaching journey designed for individuals who want a curated, grounded, and transformative approach to intimacy and kink.

Edge is where you meet your boundaries, fears, patterns, and nervous system responses. It is who you become when safety, attunement and self-trust become fully present.

Together, we create a container where desire becomes intelligible, embodied, and freeing. One where you walk away being able to trust your erotic voice wholeheartedly.


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The tease journey

Tease is my 6-week group coaching container designed for individuals who are looking for an entrance into exploring their desires on their terms and shed shame that no longer belongs to them.

Tease is your introduction into the desires you’ve been seeking to awaken.

If you are interested in joining the next group coaching container, sign up now.

Our next group container starts FALL 2026!

We meet Tuesday evenings for 6 weeks.

Recordings available for any session you miss!

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SCHEDULE a FREE CONSULTATION

This work begins with a conversation.

Before entering an intimate 1:1 coaching container, we’ll meet for a complimentary 30 minute consultation: a spacious, grounded call to explore resonance, readiness, and fit.

There is no pressure to decide.

No performance required.

Only an invitation to listen to your body, your curiosity, and what feels aligned.

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From My Clients

  • "Alisa has been instrumental in helping me to connect somatically with parts of myself relating to sexuality, relationships, and pleasure. I feel that every hour with her has been beneficial and Alisa is the gold when it comes to somatic/sex/intimacy coaching!" — Ashley W

  • "During our sessions I felt immediately at ease with Alisa. Her empathy, patience and advanced understanding of embodiment helped me to learn about myself in a safe space with zero judgement. Alisa is connected to herself, which made me feel as if she understood what was going on in my body. She has a beautiful way of explaining complex concepts and simplifying approaches and exercises. After working with Alisa I feel more connected to myself and have a strong understanding of my core desires. I feel better prepared to help my own clients as well enhance my sex life." — Kris H

  • "Alisa has a lot of passion for her work. She is very easy to connect with and very supportive when it comes to becoming a better version of yourself." — Matt Z

  • “Over the past several months, I have sought out and used Alisa’s professional guidance and managing the PTSD issues surrounding my childhood sexual abuse as well as managing my current desires in promoting a positive sexual relationship with my spouse. Alisa really does an excellent job in breaking down those taboos and fetishes that one desires but afraid to inquire. I highly recommend Alisa’s professional guidance for anyone seeking therapy in the realm of sexual exploration particularly from one who is so highly educated and experienced.”

    -Tim G.

  • “You helped me fill up my reservoir of wellness enough to get through what haws been an impossible 16 hours. Thank you Alisa - you are one of the most gifted healers I’ve ever encountered in my journey of healing” - Sharon K.

  • “Had an open conversation with someone I met and that felt good. Also had a direct conversation last night with someone I was exploring D/s play with. I learned not every Dom is a match with every sub. Also just realized that was not obvious to me because I was chasing the “being chosen” at the expense of my own needs, values, etc. It’s good day today. I’m grateful to you [Alisa] for having helped in these ongoing discoveries. -Mike B.

  • I wanted to thank you again for yesterday and holding space for me to process what needed to be released. Slept like a baby and feel more rooted today. - M.

  • I love shadow work as a concept, but I've been starting to doubt that it's something that's accessible to me, since my long term memory is non-existent, and I never really developed an internalized sense of shame. I went into this presentation assuming defeat and a low value output, but was proven very wrong. I have listened to so, so many people speak on this topic before, but Alisa has completely turned my hopelessness on my approaching this around, and was my favorite speaker to date. I loved the way she talked about boundaries, and the anecdote about school children playing more at ease when there are fences around the yard because boundaries tell us we're safe within these walls. I loved the way she spoke about making maps of our metaphorical nerves and triggers the same way we would map out our physical nerves for dangerous rope play. I loved the way she talked about titration over immersion as an approach to a traumatized system.   PHENOMENAL presentation and presenter.

    -Workshop participant

  • I have officially attended my first class in the Thrive 2026 - Kink as a Tool for Embodied Shadow Work and It was amazing! I LOVED all the comments and how much information Alisa gave through the class and answering the questions and comments. I felt the class she prepared was well written for the time she had. It was really good information and I am hoping there is a way to get some of the slides she plans on sharing later, but even without that I felt like I learned a lot from this class. Be kind to myself is the biggest takeaway from the class, that she encourages self-exploration through shadow work.

    -THRIVE participant

“Erotic intelligence stretches far beyond a repertoire of sexual techniques. It is an intelligence that celebrates curiosity and play, the power of the imagination, and our infinite fascination with what is hidden and mysterious”

Esther Perel

Not sure yet?

You’re welcome to begin by attending a workshop or event to experience my facilitation style and approach in a community setting.